About Me

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After spending nearly twenty years as a serial people pleaser, constantly battling stress, fear, and anxiety, my life came to an abrupt halt when an unexpected divorce shattered the illusion of the perfect life I thought I was living. That was the catalyst that sent me spiraling toward my version of rock bottom. I knew I needed to take responsibility and control of the path my life was taking. This marked the beginning of my journey of self-discovery. Now, with over a decade of research and experience, I am dedicated to making a lasting impact that will endure long after I'm gone.

I had to dissect many parts of my life to finally see how I was living and why I was living. Truly letting go of the premise of seeking validation from others, while keeping my core beliefs of doing the right thing and trying to be a good person, was a long painstaking process of unshackling the chains of inadequacy I placed on myself. Realizing that I was the one who imprisoned myself with that sentence gave me the power and confidence that I could also be the one to set me free. I sought to forgive myself and started becoming comfortable with loving who I am.

There is no substitute for putting the hard work that is required for you to get to a place where you can realize being comfortable in your own skin, being who you truly are and living a life with purpose. Knowing that other people's words or opinions will never hurt you, unless you allow it. Words are simply that, words, they cannot physically hurt you. The pain words inflict on you is all done by the meaning and weight you place on them. We should all listen to others, but never allow their words or projections of what we should do or how we should live to be the navigating beacon in our lives. Living a perfect impression of a life others think you should live will only lead you down the path I spent most of my life following. Living a life that you want, making all the mistakes and learning from failures, will set you free to live the life you were meant to live. There is no-one more qualified to pay it forward than someone who puts in the work, pulls themselves out of the darkness and every single day does not allow the past to dictate their future. 

Today, understanding that when you no longer give anyone the power to define your self-worth, life becomes less complex. Knowing that when you choose to do the right thing, with no strings attached, you simplify your actions. Never letting your emotions be dictated by your surroundings gives you control. Once your emotions are under your control and your actions are simplified, life begins to unfold in ways you could have never imagined.